Are You Ignoring Your Emerging Adult’s Substance Abuse?

It’s tough to watch our emerging adults struggle, especially when they turn to alcohol or drugs as a way to manage their mental health. But are you, as a parent, unknowingly allowing this behavior? Maybe you’re not stepping in because you don’t know how, or perhaps you’re afraid of what it might reveal about your own habits.

Let’s explore some of the reasons why you might not be getting involved—and how to take that first step toward helping your emerging adult.

1. You Don’t Know What to Say

It’s common to feel lost when approaching a conversation about substance abuse. You might worry that bringing it up will push your child further away. But silence can do more harm than good. Start with an open, non-judgmental tone: “I’ve noticed you’ve been drinking more lately. How are you feeling?” Creating a safe space for honesty is the first step.

2. You Fear They Won’t Accept Help

Maybe you’ve already tried suggesting therapy or support, and they’ve rejected the idea. It’s discouraging, but keep trying. Sometimes it takes multiple conversations before they’re ready. Offer help without pressure: “When you’re ready to talk to someone, I’m here to help you find support.”

3. You Feel Helpless and Don’t Know How to Get Involved

Substance abuse and mental health are complex issues, and it’s easy to feel out of your depth. Educate yourself on the warning signs of addiction, understand the role mental health plays, and seek guidance from professionals. The more you know, the more empowered you’ll feel to step in and help.

4. You’re Avoiding Your Own Reflection

This might be the hardest question to ask yourself: Are you staying quiet because confronting your child’s substance abuse means confronting your own? If alcohol or drug use is a way you manage your own stress, it’s important to recognize how this dynamic could affect your emerging adult. Sometimes, the best way to help them is by addressing your own habits and modeling healthier coping mechanisms.

5. It’s Never Too Late to Get Involved

Whether you’ve been silent for a while or feel overwhelmed by the scope of the issue, it’s never too late to step in. Start small. Acknowledge the challenge you both face and offer unconditional support. You’re not expected to have all the answers, but by getting involved, you can begin guiding your emerging adult toward healthier choices.

It’s time to reflect on your role as a parent. Are you stepping back out of fear or uncertainty? Or are you avoiding a deeper truth that needs to be addressed in yourself? Either way, it’s never too late to take action—for your emerging adult and for yourself.