How Parents Can Navigate Common Challenges with Emerging Adults

Parenting emerging adults comes with its own set of unique challenges. Among the biggest concerns I hear from parents are these three:

1. Their emerging adult’s marijuana use.
2. Their emerging adult’s mental health.
3. Fear that their emerging adult will be financially dependent for longer than expected.

For many parents, marijuana use and mental health challenges go hand in hand. Their emerging adults may be battling anxiety or depression and turning to marijuana as a way to cope. Unfortunately, what often starts as an attempt to self-medicate can create a vicious cycle, worsening both their anxiety and depression over time.

Parents are understandably frustrated by this dynamic. They see the bigger picture—that marijuana is contributing to the problem rather than solving it—but feel helpless when their emerging adult doesn’t recognize or acknowledge the issue.

Can You Relate?

If these fears resonate with you, you’re not alone. Many parents find themselves navigating these same waters, trying to help their emerging adult while managing their own emotions.

Here are two steps you can take to support both your child and yourself during this challenging time:

1. Take Care of Your Emotional Health

Your emerging adult’s struggles can easily become overwhelming for you as a parent. It’s natural to feel anxious or frustrated, but your emotional response can inadvertently heighten their anxiety.

• Prioritize self-care to keep your emotions in check.
• Practice mindfulness, take breaks, and remind yourself that you can’t control their choices—only how you respond to them.
• Your calm presence can have a profound impact on how they feel and engage with you.

2. Seek Support for Yourself

Parenting through these challenges is hard, and you don’t have to do it alone. Build a support network for yourself to stay grounded and gain perspective.

• Talk to a trusted friend who will listen without judgment.
• Consider seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist who can help you process your feelings and provide practical tools.
• Join an online support group of parents facing similar struggles to share experiences and encouragement.

Having a space to express your frustrations and fears is essential. When you feel supported, you’re better equipped to provide the understanding and patience your emerging adult needs.

Parenting an emerging adult isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about staying steady as you guide them through their journey. Remember, you’re not alone in this. Many parents are walking a similar path, and there is strength in seeking help, sharing your story, and finding ways to support each other along the way.