About Kim Muench
This is my story of going through parenting challenges and then moving into serving other mothers ...
My name is Kim Muench, I am the founder of Real Life Parent Guide, I am passionate about helping moms in the midst of parenting kids between the ages of 10 and the mid-20's.
You see, in May of 2008, I went through the greatest parenting challenge of my life. The eldest of my five children called me from across the country to say he was in trouble…he was failing classes, about to lose his job, and his use of alcohol was totally out of control.
At the time he was twenty years old.
When I answered his call for help, I didn’t waste time wondering how it had happened or ask myself, “Why me?!” I knew the way I had parented him and was parenting, contributed to the life-threatening situation he was in and one that I could no longer deny.
During his spiral through the darkness, I worked with my son to help him find long term sobriety by supporting and encouraging him but never doing for him what he could do for himself. It wasn’t easy, all the while my energy and focus were on discovering and understanding where things between he and I, actually myself and all of my children, could be different/better/healthier/more connected.
I knew any change in our relationship started with me. And, to this day, it continues with me. So I began to educate myself on how the parent/child relationship really works, in tandem, I slowly made my own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being a priority. That included parenting in a completely different light! Today my kids range in age from 16-33 and my son will celebrate 11 years of sobriety in May 2021.
In my journey to redefine my role as a mom who would guide, instead of trying to control my kid’s choices and behavior, one who would work hand-in-hand with them instead of trying to dominate the relationship, I was led to research dozens of parenting, self-discovery, and personal growth books and courses. My quest prompted me to return to college to finish a degree in psychology, and it led me to an internship where my greatest responsibility was supporting and encouraging other parents who had teens in outpatient addiction treatment.In addition, my path has led me to write a soon-to-be-published memoir about my experience as a mother with a child in the throes of addiction called Becoming Me While Raising You - A mother's journey to her self.
Ultimately, my journey took me to a certification in parent coaching through the Jai Institute for Parenting because I believe the quality of the relationship between ourselves and our children is the essence of what it will take to create positive change in the world, not only during our lifetime but for future generations as well. And the quality of that relationship begins with a mother’s relationship with herself.
Everything our kids learn and experience starts at home with us. If we [moms] don’t make ourselves a priority by taking the time to cultivate our inner voice, our physical/emotional/spiritual well-being, we teach our children their well-being is not worthwhile either.
I call myself a real-life parent guide because I have a down-to-earth approach to balancing kids' needs, mother's desires, and keeping a realistic perspective on what our culture tells us about how family life "should look" in check.
When you are ready, I can help you find what I have found with my own kids…peace, mutual trust and respect, playfulness, camaraderie, and above all else…unconditional love and acceptance.My kids, who are now in high school/college/grown and flown, have taught me about where I needed to grow as a mom, and about the importance of having faith, calm, courage, patience, and grace incorporated into my everyday life.
— Heather, mother of 2
"When I met Kim, I had just gotten out of a really bad 14 year marriage and moved to Flower Mound. I was desperate for a different set of tools in my tool box to help parent my 12-year-old twins and 9-year-old autistic son as a newly single Mom. Her practical 8-week online program was easy, and weekly in person meetings gave me so much relief and confidence to tackle raising my 3 bogs in a much better way. I feel like I’m parenting from a different perspective now. Thank you Kim!"
— Mother of a 17-year-old
"In our time together, you have made me realize my childhood emotional baggage and the effect it has on my daughter. Now that I can recognize, I pause and separate in the moment rather than react to my daughter."
— Jenny, mother of two
"My daughter is willing to talk with me about the things that bother her, both my kids are more willing to leave the house without the usual issues, and together we are working on better identifying and expressing our feelings and needs."
— Jenny W.
"I participated in Kim's class - "Becoming Me While Raising You" this past winter. I recommend it for anyone raising teens. It isn't your typical parenting class where an expert imparts instructions or knowledge on students. Instead, it requires participants to do the work - making sense of their own childhoods and past experiences as a means of understanding and improving upon their parenting methods. Kim's role is more of a coach (and a good one) than a parenting guru or expert with the next best strategy to parenting. The class truly did help me reconsider and hopefully improve my approach to developing relationships with my teen and young adult son."
— Carmen, mother of tween and teen
"Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey…you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread."
— Karen, mother of 4
"Each time we spoke I felt heard and understood by you Kim because your journey as a mom has seen some challenges. I know you never judged me in the struggles I was having with my preteen daughter. I truly appreciate your wisdom and guidance."