Frustrated parents of young adults, this one’s for you. Have you found yourself scrolling through endless worries about your son or daughter, particularly concerning their unconventional sleep patterns, substance use, or a general lack of direction? Are you grappling with the perplexing statement that they don’t want to grow up? Welcome to the rollercoaster of parenting young adults!
Many parents reach out to me with concerns about their son or daughter and how they’ve switched their nights with their days. To a point where the parent knows they are being avoided. Just as many parents come to me concerned about the amount of marijuana their kids are using and how it’s affecting an already complex mental health issue.
Unfortunately in our society today, it’s not uncommon for parents to be inundated with worries about their young adults. From flipped sleep schedules to concerns about substance use, the anxiety can be overwhelming. Add in the sense of “directionlessness” and the outright refusal to embrace adulthood, and it’s no wonder that many parents are left scratching their heads, wondering how to navigate these uncharted waters best.
Life for late teens and twenty-something isn’t at all what it looked like when we were their age.
The generation gap can feel like a vast chasm, especially when understanding the choices and attitudes of today’s young adults. This means your parenting needs to evolve because traditional approaches may not always be practical.
So, how can parents bridge the gap and provide the support and guidance their young adults need? Let me share two of my favorite parenting books for parents of young adults.
You and Your Adult Child by Dr. Laurence Steinberg: How to Grow Together in Challenging Times
This book guides parents in navigating the complexities of the relationship with their adult children. Dr. Steinberg offers insights into knowing when to intervene and when to step back, especially concerning financial assistance and romantic relationships. It also delves into the dynamics of grandparenting, providing a comprehensive roadmap for the evolving parent-adult-child relationship.
Failure to Launch by Dr. Mark McConville: Why Your 20-Something Hasn’t Grown Up and What You Can Do About It
Dr. McConville’s book explores the phenomenon of young adults struggling to embrace independence. Filled with practical examples, it addresses various scenarios and provides actionable advice for parents. Whether you have a son or daughter facing challenges, this book offers valuable insights and strategies for fostering growth.
Look, I know these aren’t sexy beach reads, but if you are struggling with your young adult, it is time for you to empower and educate yourself, and these are two great options.
In a world that often demands quick fixes and instant solutions, the power of knowledge should not be underestimated. Parenting young adults is a nuanced journey, and understanding the underlying issues can be transformative. These books, while not the typical page-turners, provide a wealth of wisdom and guidance for parents facing the unique challenges of this stage.
If you don’t read books, they’re also available on Audible.
Recognizing that not everyone may have the time to sit down with a book, both resources are available on Audible. Whether you prefer listening during your commute or while tackling household chores, making these resources accessible in audio format ensures that valuable insights can be absorbed, even on the go.
Part of the issue and challenge is the anxiety, guilt, stress, and frustration that parents have that is exacerbating the problems young people have.
That’s why it’s crucial to acknowledge the emotional toll parenting young adults can take. The anxiety, guilt, stress, and frustration can exacerbate the challenges faced by young people. Recognizing and managing these emotions is vital to effective parenting during this transitional period.
You can do this, parents. I believe in us.
Amidst the challenges and uncertainties, parents need to embrace the belief that they can navigate this journey successfully. Empowering oneself with knowledge, seeking guidance from reputable resources, and acknowledging the emotional landscape are critical components of effective parenting. The road may be bumpy, but with the right tools and mindset, parents can indeed conquer the maze of young adulthood.